Squirting – for some an erotic highlight, for others a mystery. Female ejaculation has sparked discussions for years: Is it normal? Can every woman do it? And what exactly happens?
What many don’t know: In the past, it was considered completely normal for women to be able to ejaculate. Only through social taboos and the narrowing of the concept of sexuality did this knowledge fall into oblivion. Meanwhile, more and more women (and couples) are rediscovering this topic – free from shame and with curiosity.
In this article, you’ll learn what squirting is, how it works, and why it’s high time to break this taboo.
What is squirting?
Squirting refers to the release of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm. This fluid doesn’t come (only) from the bladder, but is produced by the Skene’s glands, also known as the “female prostate.”
Important:
The fluid is not “urine,” even though it exits through the urethra.
Consistency and amount can vary greatly – from a few drops to clearly visible amounts of fluid.
Step-by-Step to Squirting (Alone or with a Partner)
1. Build arousal
Start with caressing, kissing, or masturbation.
Many women need strong arousal before squirting becomes possible.
2. G-spot stimulation
The G-spot is located about 3–5 cm along the front wall of the vagina (toward the belly).
Massage rhythmically and firmly with curved fingers (“come here” motion) or special G-spot toys.
3. Allow the pressure sensation
Shortly before squirting, many feel a strong pressure or urge to urinate.
Don’t tense up or hold back! Breathe deeply and relax your pelvic floor and abdomen.
Just let the fluid come – it’s part of the process.
4. Try different positions
Alone: Lying on your back with legs spread or hips slightly elevated.
With a partner: Missionary position (with fingers or toy) or doggy style with additional G-spot stimulation.
5. Combine with clitoral stimulation
Many women reach the point of letting go more easily when G-spot and clitoral stimulation are combined.
Squirting in History – Why It Fell into Oblivion
Historically speaking, female ejaculation was long known and accepted.
It was already described in ancient medical writings (e.g., by Hippocrates) and in the Tantra tradition.
In the European Middle Ages and early modern period, doctors and philosophers spoke openly about it.
But with the sexual morality of the 18th and 19th centuries and the increasing pathologization of female desire, the knowledge disappeared.
Women were not supposed to have active sexuality, desire was downplayed, and with it the knowledge about squirting vanished.
Only in recent decades has squirting been openly discussed again through sex research and the sex-positive movement.
Can every woman squirt?
Many sex researchers say: Yes – at least theoretically.
The ability to squirt depends less on “skill” than on relaxation, trust, and technique.
Some women experience it spontaneously, others only after targeted practice or through certain stimuli.
Important:
Not every woman sees squirting as a goal – and that’s completely fine.
It’s not a “must,” but a possible addition to sexual experience.
Why Squirting Should Be De-Tabooed
Squirting is not a “trick” or porn phenomenon, but a natural part of female sexuality. By talking about it, we remove the shame for women to explore themselves and their bodies. The sex-positive movement shows: Pleasure deserves to be celebrated – in all its facets. Whether squirting becomes part of your sexuality or not: It’s about knowing the possibilities and deciding for yourself.
Squirting used to be taken for granted before it was socially suppressed. Today we’re reclaiming this knowledge – and with it a piece of female self-determination and sexual freedom.
If you’re curious, talk to your partner about it, try it without pressure, and find out what gives you pleasure. Because in the end: Sexuality is as diverse as we are – and squirting is just one of many ways to experience it.
